True love in my opinion is a myth.
And nowadays we dont even take the efforts to explore this myth a little.
Be it because of our super busy lives or our deep seated casual approach towards this concept.
Relationships are based on convenience, among other things. Love comes later.
No matter how much you do for someone or how much you tear your heart apart to express your feelings, I guarantee you, things won’t be reciprocated the same way.
And I have accepted this. With tremendous difficulty. Still trying to actually. I might never be able to though. Eh, what the hell.
And if they are reciprocated, I am really, really jealous and you are really, really lucky.
In the initial stages, it is fun, attraction, hormones. If both sides put in the effort it can transform into a beautiful spring tree with blooming flowers. Only to eventually show out its thorns.
Thorns being insecurities, possessiveness, jealously.
But this is the integral part of this beautiful tree!! These thorns are important to protect this relationship from external dangers, which are like, lets say pests and insects trying to infest this beautiful tree.
If the love is true, it is going to get a little crazy.
Try to understand the other person’s concerns. Adress them. Gently. It will require a lot of patience and effort. But please do. Please give the benefit of doubt to your partner.
And take some action. Even if it means breaking a bond between you and some random new *friend* or letting go of something else.
You are a team. You need to work as a team and think about each other.
And if you don’t find taking the effort worth your time, just do that person a favour and let them go. For their betterment.
Till next time,
Brown girl on a budget.