Part 4- my vices, my addictions: belonging .

Love, for me, is one the most subjective, confusing and overwhelming feeling there is. It has the power to make someone so vulnerable and weak.

And if literature is to be believed, they say love is selfless, unconditional and does not seek reason.

But In today’s world, I personally, don’t believe in a love like that. And I wouldn’t want to love like that either.

We have so much to do in this life within a limited time, that we ought to look for ourselves, love ourselves in the first place and then find a partner who’d love us back in our extraordinary journey together.

So coming back to love in today’s world-

There is a very thin line between love and dependance which could lead to obsession which could lead to addiction.

I’m not overstating you guys, just think over it, I’m sure you’ll see what I’m trying to say here.

I have in fact seen it happening, to one of my friends. The sweet mushy love turning to ugly and desperate addiction of sorts. But that’s a story for another time.

It is important we keep introspecting and checking the limits and the saneness of the love you feel for somebody. Be it a friend, your pet, your family, or your partner.

Don’t build your life around someone.

Don’t let their behavior and moods affect you and run your day.

Whenever I feel overwhelmed or affected by the behaviour of a loved one, I take a deep breath and give myself the following affirmation-

“Yes, I love you, in the most real way possible, but I cannot let my life, which I am so tirelessly trying to build, be controlled by your whims and fancies. Yes, I will always love you from the depth of my heart. But I have to know when it’s time to love myself first. “

Try to have a healthy, constructive and happy relationship with yourself and then those around you.

I’m trying that. Every. Single. Day.

Here’s hoping for a kickass future with out best and most happy self. Cheers.

Lots of love,

Brown girl on a budget πŸ™‚



  1. kishanlakhotia · October 16, 2017

    The person who loves himself can easily love others.

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  2. chirose · October 16, 2017

    Very good thoughts about love, inclusion, dependency. Thank you for sharing. Pleased to meet you! And thank you for the blog follow too πŸ™‚

    Liked by 1 person

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