Nachos, with a side of chilli mayo is what gave me the inspiration for this title. 😋
And some introspection is what led to the following –
First love is huge. Epic. Life changing. But it may or may not be your last. Which from what I’ve heard is something wayyy ahead of the first.
In order to adult efficiently, most of the times anyway, we have to get over this huge epic life changing love.
Because as sad as it may be, most of us aren’t that lucky to hit the jackpot the first time.
And if you are one of those blessed ones, I’m happy for you. ( Subtext: ugh. yeah. Whatever. May be a little less happy. 😛 )
Personally speaking, this first big love sets the bar or expectations or comparison variables for all of those people who come in your life.
And if you’re anything like me, you know that we fall less, but when we do, we fall hard. So it’s natural to have difficulty in letting go of these feelings, partially or completely.
I don’t think they can ever go completely. One small part of your heart will always love that person. No matter how many times he ignores, annoys, hurts or walks all over you. And that’s okay!!! It just means you fell for it, hopelessly with all your heart and soul. And being able to do that is such a pure and a strong thing to do. You should be proud.
But also understand it’s not your last love because if it was, you wouldn’t be trying to let go in the first place.
Clarity precedes success. And that’s what I’m going for here.
Having feelings for someone in your past doesn’t ever have to hinder your relationship with yourself or others ever. It’s okay. It’s good.
But that doesn’t mean you have to go back and keep repeating the same dysfunctional pattern of misery and negativity.
Hold that person close in your heart forever. Be there for them. Whenever they really need it. Be happy for the wonderful times you shared and the intense feelings they made you feel.
And then live your life, your best life, practically and whole- heartedly with the right people.
Never ever ever settle. I’m rooting for you. ❤️
Lots of love,
Brown girl on a budget 🙂